What to prioritize in your 20s - self improvement or romance?

Common sense tells you to prioritize your self improvement over a romantic relationship. But you do want a good loving relationship in the long run too right? So, if you found your “dream girl” doesn’t it make sense to build a loving relationship with her in your 20s?

ABSOLUTELY NOT ❌

If you are on the younger side (in your 20s), understand your competition. We now live in a GLOBALIZED SEXUAL MARKETPLACE. Your competition isn't the pseudo alpha guy in your class who gets slightly more attention from the girls. These college girls aren't even looking at college guys for anything serious, they are being flown around the world by rich guys from sugar dating sites like seeking arrangements and in most cases even directly from instagram.

I live in New York City and sugar dating is very common in all such big cities, almost every hot girl I match with on the dating apps is also on sugar dating sites where she has an older guy funding her entire lifestyle and these are mostly girls between the age of 20-24!

Ask yourself, what kind of value do you have to offer a woman in your 20s while she is getting fucked by a millionaire in his 40s?

I am not saying you can’t find a good girl, but the odds are certainly against you when you having nothing valuable to offer and your competition is top tier alpha males.

So what do you do if you are in your early 20s? You absolutely need to level up, there is NO WAY around it. Your priorities should be in this order-

1. Work your ass off in the gym and build a good physique.

2. Focus on generating multiple streams of income, the sooner you figure that out, the faster you reach financial freedom.

3. Learn GAME.

What that means in your early 20s is - 

Do not date any girl seriously, just have fun with the ones you can, use them to gain experience and learn game. This will help build your character and down the line after a few years, you will be in a position where you have an abundance of girls in your life.

4. Dating in 2024 is all about personal brand management. You have to maintain a certain level of pictures and lifestyle on your instagram page. Instagram is literally the biggest dating site in the world right now, if you have it setup correctly, getting girls from there would be a piece of cake.

Once you have put in the work in your 20s and dated around, you will position yourself such that in your 30s you are a high value man and instead of chasing women, you will attract a good feminine woman in your life.

Until then, work your ass and enjoy the grind. Zero days off fellas.

And as always,

Impact, don't impress!🦁

Coach B2A.