Letting go of past relationships and attachments

I am a firm believer of ruthlessly working on your four pillars of masculinity - looks, money, status and Game. One of the biggest hurdle that a lot of guys face to effectively work on themselves in these areas is their inability to let go of past traumas and relationships. So in this essay, I will give you ways to successfully get out of this harmful mindset so you can focus all your energy on becoming the best fucking version of yourself.

We’ve all had an ex that we can’t seem to get out of our minds. A harmful friendship we hold on to even though it exhausts us. Or even a family member who is toxic. Why can’t we learn how to let go of someone, even when we know they’re not good for us?

Holding on is a natural human instinct – and it’s also a critical way that we stop ourselves from reaching our goals. Because ultimately, not knowing how to move on harms you: It prevents you from achieving your true potential.

WHY IS LETTING GO SO HARD?

Why do we have so much trouble learning how to let go of someone we love? We like to hold on to things, situations and especially people because it fulfills our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the six human needs that drive every decision we make. Letting go and moving on from a relationship often entails a large amount of uncertainty. Even if your relationship had reached its conclusion or one or both of you were very unhappy, there was still an amount of certainty there that was comforting.

Sometimes we use the past to justify our current decisions, and that’s why we can’t figure out how to let go. Remember when you were rejected by several potential mates in high school or college? Those instances could make you hold on to a partner – even one who is not good for you – because you are afraid you won’t find anyone else. Those memories justify everything for you. When you’re unable to let go, those memories become a part of your “story” and work against you.

SIGNS YOU HAVEN’T MOVED ON

Learning how to let go of someone you "love" – someone you’ve built a deep connection with and whom you’ve shared your life with – is likely one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. That’s why so many people break up, but never truly discover how to move on. If these signs are familiar, you may be one of those people:

• You’re always wondering what could have been

• You think of the person constantly, or at time when you’d rather not

• You spend a lot of time reliving memories or looking them up on social media

• You bring them up often when talking to friends

• When you’re feeling down, they’re the first person you think to call

• You make changes to your life or appearance to get them back

• You feel anxious or even angry when you see the person

• You blame them or want to get revenge for perceived slights

Letting go of someone you love isn’t easy, but holding on only holds you back from the possibility of an extraordinary relationship. To focus your energy on living positively and proactively, you need to learn how to move on. You must be willing to LET GO of ANY PERSON or relationship that doesn't serve you anymore. 

HOW TO LET GO OF SOMEONE

Knowing you need to let go and actually letting go are two very different things. These tips will help you discover how to move on once and for all.

1. RECOGNIZE WHEN IT’S TIME

Learning when it’s time to let go is often the most difficult part of this process. But in many cases it’s necessary to let go in order to unlock the life you deserve. Though each relationship is different, most find it’s time to end things when the relationship causes them more pain than pleasure or when trust has eroded to the point where the romance cannot be rekindled. Deciding how to let go becomes easier when you are certain the time has come and that your future happiness depends on a new start. As a Red pill aware man, it is fairly easy to recognize when the relationship has run its course. It's when you hold your masculine frame, assert your boundaries and she still DISRESPECTS you constantly every day. At that point, it's time to move on.

2. IDENTIFY LIMITING BLUE PILL BELIEFS

Do thoughts like “I could never be alone” or “I’ll never find someone else who loves me like her” constantly run through your mind? Understand that these are not facts – they are your limiting blue pill beliefs, and while beliefs have the power to create your world, you have the power to transform them.  When you are red pill aware and always put yourself first (MENTAL POINT OF ORIGIN) these limiting beliefs seem completely illogical. When you truly internalize the idea that there is no such thing as a "soulmate", the loss of your ex will never feel this strong crazy void in your life. One of the girls I dated is a famous NY runway model now, do I regret "losing" her? She was a hot fuck but that's all she was, even now I pity the guy who is engaged to that hoe, I don't give a fuck because I know she wasn't SPECIAL. Neither whatever we had was any special, human brain often tends to GLORIFY past experiences and about 85-90% of what memories our brain retains is a figment of our imagination. So no, however special you think your ex was, in reality she was just another regular woman and there will be a Gazillion other women like her that will enter your life. Also understand, you are only getting better every day if you are the kind of guy who is constantly working on his looks, money, status and Game. If you could attract this "perfect" bitch in the past, imagine the amount of "perfect" bitches you can NOW attract with your new improved self. Everyone is REPLACEABLE, never ever forget that.

3. CHANGE/REWRITE YOUR OWN STORY

Your story is what you tell yourself to justify your decisions and is based on your limiting beliefs. For example, you tell yourself you can’t have a successful relationship because of how you grew up. Your parents argued in front of you all the time and eventually divorced. You can’t let go of the belief that all relationships are bound to fail, and this is why you can’t maintain a healthy romantic relationship. You use this past experience to justify your current life state – but you can change your story so that your past empowers you instead of holding you back. Your past is not your future unless you live there. Learn from your past, apply it in your present and enjoy your future.

4. STOP THE BLAME GAME

Letting go of someone you love doesn’t mean you have to negate the truth, but don’t let it influence your current path. It is human nature to point the finger at someone else or a past incident instead of ourselves. This is why you blame her at the end of a relationship, however in most cases you were a little bitch who acted beta, did not assert proper boundaries, couldn't hold on to your masculine frame and she left. If you just blame her to cope for your shortcomings, you will never learn and make the same mistakes again and again. Instead, recognize where you fucked up, learn from it and avoid it in the next relationship. While many guys do that and recognize what they did wrong, they make a BIG mistake of going back to their ex to FIX THE RELATIONSHIP. This NEVER EVER works and there is a biological reason for it. It's got nothing to do with you and no one in the blue pill world will ever tell you the real reason because they are clueless - it happens because of female biology and evolution. Evolutionarily, females have adopted the idea of moving on quickly from one guy to another once that guy could not provide and protect her. WAR BRIDES are the perfect example of this evolutionary trait. When their husbands die in the war, their ONLY chance of survival is to submit to the winners of the WAR, in most cases KNOWINGLY get raped by them, and when they eventually carry the child of their rapists, they grow to love them. This is the most fucked up thing you will ever come across in the human history but the roots of this behavior are in our biology and evolution. Coming back to the topic of discussion, there is absolutely no point in trying to WIN her back because once she has moved on from you and is dating another person, you are pretty much dead to her and I just explained you the reason behind it. That is the COLD HARD REALITY of life.  

5. SUCCESS IS NOT THE BEST REVENGE, INDIFFERENCE IS 

A lot of "motivational" blue pill pages all over instagram plaster this quote about breakups - "SUCCESS IS THE BEST FORM OF REVENGE". I disagree with this thinking. If your entire success is based on the idea of making her jealous and regret leaving you, you have horribly failed as a man. Once you are done with the relationship, that bitch could marry a billionaire tomorrow or go homeless, it should be NONE OF YOUR FUCKING CONCERN. She is a stranger at that point. Get rid of all the pictures you have with her, delete her from all of your social media, stop stalking her like a little bitch, let her do whatever the fuck she wants, she is a nobody to you. If you become super successful, you will get a girl you deserve at that point in your life. Whether your ex regrets leaving you or not will not make any difference to your life at that point. It's a big cope for a lot of guys to think this way, "One day she is gonna regret leaving me", fuck outta here! If she is a hoe, she will not regret anything, she will be sucking a bunch of dicks out there and by the time she hits the wall, she would have even forgotten your name and your existence. If she was a good feminine girl then she would be happily married to another strong masculine man who did not fuck it up like you did with her. The point is no matter how successful you become, SHE IS NOT GOING TO REGRET LOSING YOU. The more important point here is YOU SHOULDN'T CARE! Learn to put yourself first and these thoughts will never even cross your mind, you will be completely indifferent to it and that is the true form of revenge!

That's pretty much there is to it fellas. You can stay stuck in the past and continue to be a loser or work on yourself so ruthlessly to become your best version that you do not have time for these crappy thoughts at all. That is a choice only YOU can make for yourself, I am just here to show you the path.

And as always,

Impact, don't impress! 🦁

-Master B2A