A Cure for Oneitis in 5 easy steps

Last week, we covered what Oneitis is and why most men get it at some point in their lives.

In today’s article, I will go cover :

Steps to get over Oneitis and destroy it forever 

There are 5 steps that a man must take at a surface level to get rid of Oneitis -

1. Developing a healthy belief system

The first order of business is to develop healthy beliefs which empower you. As men we must adopt the belief which will aid us most in our quest for success. Any belief that does not aid you must be thrown away immediately, and swapped out for a more empowering belief.

The single biggest underlying mindset, which creates massive oneitis, is simply living in a state of scarcity. This means that you believe life really only gives you very little, and if you ever fuck up or make a mistake, you’re done for. That’s it.

The truth is that there are BILLIONS of women on the face of the earth, and however special you might think this oneitis happens to be, there are many other women who are just as good. Of course, this can be a tough pill to swallow, especially as you advance in your dating life but start by changing your scarcity mindset and adopt an abundance mindset.

2.  Deal with your past trauma(s)

We all have past trauma, lurking deep within our subconscious. Like it or not, you are a human being, and every human being is subject to some form of trauma.

Whether it was your parents neglecting you as a child, an uncle who molested you, a teacher who made you feel stupid, or a tragic car accident, we all have some form of it.

This trauma, when undealt with, creates a pent up charge of negative emotions. As you go through this life, you will unwillingly act out the imprint of this trauma, until you become conscious of it and choose to release it.

3. Mental Point of Origin

As a man, you have to be selfish when it comes to your own happiness and everything you do in life should stem from the mindset of - how does this benefit me? Contrary to all the blue pill advice about being selfless in "love", when a man is strong, masculine and high value, he must put himself first because he is the leader in the relationship and when the leader doesn't lookout for himself, he cannot look out for his followers. I find this analogous to the announcements in Airplanes when they say "before helping your fellow passengers, make sure you help yourself with the oxygen mask in case of an emergency". By sacrificing your own happiness, you do not do any service to the woman who is following your path. Having yourself as your mental point of origin is a BIG STEP in getting rid of Oneitis.

4. Learn Game and spin plates

Developing your game is by far one of the most important things a man can do in life. Without the ability to meet, attract, and seduce women, you will live a very lonely and passionless life, subject to the whims of women around you.

Unfortunately, most men have absolutely NO GAME whatsoever. They don’t know how to meet attractive women, how to talk to attractive women, nor how to seduce attractive women.

Is it any wonder that most men suffer from oneitis? How the fuck can you get over a girl, if you don’t even HAVE any other girls to get over her with?

Do not neglect this area of your life. There is a reason why I talk about having GAME so much in all my posts and articles. If you want to truly get over your oneitis, you must become good at Game, spin multiple plates and create true sexual abundance.

A good way to get started with improving your Game would be to improve your texting skills with a woman. In today’s world, learning how to text a girl is a BIG part of the Game since they are on their phones 24/7. Read this book and learn all the secrets about how to Game her with your texting -

5. Masculine hobbies and strong masculine male friends 

One of the biggest factors for having a massive Oneitis amongst men today is lack of masculine hobbies and a strong social circle of male friends.

This is a big one fellas especially now a days when everyone just stays isolated in their social media world. This is mainly true for men, as women still continue to have friends and hangout together if you notice. Most young boys don't bond with other guys their age anymore, they sit at home alone and play video games or endlessly watch e-thots on social media, watch porn and turn into simps. When they actually get a woman in real life, it is too much for them to handle and they instantly develop a oneitis because they have no other social life and hobbies that develops their masculine traits. 

As a man, you must get rid of your shy, introverted traits and be more outgoing. Learn and master social skills, connect with other strong masculine guys, bond with them over sports, martial arts, business etc. and hangout more among guys. I CANNOT STRESS ON THIS POINT ENOUGH. Being with other high value men and sourcing inspiration from how they see life, women and dating in general will make an immense difference and help you develop a true abundance mindset.

So fellas, an important step is to recognize if you suffer from this horrible mental disease of Oneitis and if you do, you now know how to get rid of it using the above 5 steps.

And as always,

Impact, don't impress!🦁

-COACH B2A